Iyo ukorana nabakiriya, urateganya ko uzahura nigihe kimwe.Ariko uyu mwaka wabyaye ibintu byinshi bibi - kandi birashoboka ko ushobora guhura nubusa kuruta mbere hose.

Ni ngombwa rero kuruta ikindi gihe cyose kwitegura gukorana nabakiriya bababaye, babi.

Ati: “Benshi muri twe tugomba gushyira mu bikorwa by'inyongera kugira ngo duhaguruke kandi tuzane imbaraga nziza ku kazi.”McLeod ati.Ati: "Iyo ugaragaje ukusanya ishyaka ryose ushobora, kandi undi muntu agatera uburozi mu kirere, birashobora kumva ko ari ugusuzugura imbaraga zawe."

Mugihe ukorana nabakiriya babi (cyangwa abo mukorana), uracyashaka gukemura ibibazo byabo mbere na mbere.Ariko urashobora kandi gutera intambwe nkeya kugirango ufashe guhindura ibintu bibi mubihe byiza.

Gerageza aya mayeri ane ya McLeod:

1. Ntukemere (cyangwa utemeranya)

Ntugomba kwikubita agashyi cyangwa gutanga ibimenyetso mu magambo nka "uh-ha" mubyumvikanyeho mugihe bataka uburyo ikintu kibi.Kandi ntushaka kutavuga rumwe, nabyo, kuko ibyo birashobora guhinduka.

Ahubwo, shimangira ushikamye kukibazo kiriho nigisubizo ushobora gutanga.Humura abakiriya babi bafite interuro nziza nka, "Turashobora kubyitaho," "Wabizanye umuntu ukwiye," cyangwa "Nzi icyo twakora kugirango tubyiteho ako kanya."

2. Itoze kubabarana

Nubwo wirinda kubyemera cyangwa kutemeranya, uzashaka kwerekana impuhwe hamwe nabantu babi.Impamvu nini nuko udashobora kumenya urugamba bashobora kuba bafite.Ntakintu nakimwe cyangwa gishobora kuba ibibazo byubukungu, ibibazo byo kwitaho cyangwa ibibazo byubuzima.Ikibazo abantu babi bafite gishobora kuba gito kuri wewe, ariko birashobora kuba ibyatsi bimena ingamiya kuri bo.

Erekana rero impuhwe zimwe ninteruro nka, "Ibyo birashobora kukubabaza," "Mbabajwe nuko wagombaga guhangana nibi" cyangwa ngo "Ndatekereza ko abantu benshi babyumva batyo."Noneho uzashaka kwimukira mubisubizo kugirango wirinde guhumeka nabi.

3. Ohereza ingufu

Ikintu kimwe ushaka kwirinda mugihe ukorana nabantu babi nukureka negativite yabo ikagira ingaruka kumyitwarire yawe - cyane cyane kubandi bakiriya uzafasha hamwe nabakozi mukorana.

McLeod rero atanga igitekerezo cya Aikido, imyitozo yubuhanzi.Igitekerezo nigihe ugabweho igitero ntusubiza inyuma.Ahubwo, uyobora imbaraga z'uwo muhanganye ahandi.

Ku kazi, urashobora guhindura negativite uyobora abakiriya kubikoresho cyangwa ibikorwa bibaha imbaraga.Kurugero, kemura ikibazo hanyuma usangire ibikoresho nkurubuga, impapuro zera cyangwa urupapuro rwabafasha kwirinda ikibazo cyangwa kunoza bimwe mubikorwa cyangwa ubuzima.

4. Ongera utekereze

Bizaba ngombwa kwemeza ko utareka ibintu bibi cyane bikagira ingaruka kubitekerezo byawe.McLeod aragusaba gutanga igitekerezo cyo "kuzenguruka abantu bakurera, babona ifeza itondekanye, kandi bakagumya kwibanda kubyingenzi."

Reba hamwe na bagenzi bawe, inshuti cyangwa abagize umuryango mwiza.Cyangwa soma amagambo yubaka, umva podcast nziza cyangwa urebe amashusho agutera imbaraga.

Kandi umunsi wakazi urangiye, iyitandukanye nayo.Waba ukora mu biro cyangwa murugo, genda mumubiri kure yakazi nuburambe bubi hanyuma ubireke mubitekerezo.

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